Let's say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else. And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: "Do you realize that, as of tonight, we've been seeing each other for exactly six months?" And then, there is silence in the car. To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want, or isn't sure of. And Fred is thinking: Gosh. Six months. And Martha is thinking: But, hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind...
Woke up this morning from you nibbling on my ear, and I opened my eyes and saw your goofy smile. What I did not tell you was the dream I had, just before I came to. It's a Monday; we are both retired, and I you are asking me to bring the river onion from the pantry. I walk pass the fridge door and catch my reflection, and I spot my entire head covered in grey hair, and I smile and walk pass, as I walk into the kitchen you are busy preparing to cook your mutton curry stew that I love so dearly. You look older, probably in your early 50’s but you still HOT to me. A call comes in and its Aya, she is working in Johannesburg for the week and she promises to eat lunch with us on Sunday, and you say something about worrying about the fact that she still single. I am chopping the onion and we have two glasses of red wine that we were drinking, as you ask me “Did you rinse them Baby,”” what?”,” The onions Zama?” I nod and you continue to tell me about a story about Aviwe and telling me he ...
It can be rough when you don't feel like your heard in a conversation, but it can be even worse when someone hears exactly what you're saying and tries to steamroll right over you. Here are a few tips to help you stand your ground and get the respect you deserve in a conversation. What It Means to Be Assertive B eing assertive isn't the easiest thing to jump into when you're shy, so perhaps the best way to start is by explaining what being assertive is not about. Being assertive does not mean being aggressive. Many people confuse the two or believe that you have to attack another person in order to assert yourself, but that's not the case. Being assertive does not mean that you make demands or tell someone what to do, and it also does not mean that you're only trying to get your way. In fact, you can be assertive and still find a way to reasonably compromise with someone, no problem. It all comes down to respect. You show respect to who you're ...
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